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On Chrissy Teigen & Postpartum Depression

On Chrissy Teigen & Postpartum Depression

When I first saw tweets and headlines earlier this week about Chrissy Teigen opening up about having post-partum depression, the first thought that ran through my mind was whennnnnnnnn…

Between tweeting the wittiest and funniest things daily…

Photo Credit:Twitter: @ChrissyTeigen

Photo Credit:Twitter: @ChrissyTeigen

Cooking mouthwatering meals on Snapchat while looking like a sun-kissed goddess…

Snapchat: @ChrissyTeigen

Snapchat: @ChrissyTeigen

Presiding over the unofficial Bravo TV watchers club…

Photo Credit: www.bravotv.com 

Photo Credit: www.bravotv.com 

Choosing cute costumes and outfits for her adorable daughter Luna….

Photo Credit: E! Online

Photo Credit: E! Online

Serving effortless glam at the Grammys while her husband, the John Legend, wins awards for love songs he wrote about her…

GIF Source: Giphy 

GIF Source: Giphy 

Signing copies of her New York Times best-selling cookbook…

Photo Credit: Amazon

Photo Credit: Amazon

And lip-sync battling…

Source: www.buzzfeed.com 

Source: www.buzzfeed.com 

When did or does Chrissy have time to be depressed?

Almost as soon as that thought came to mind, I had to check myself. Speaking truth to conscience: I have battled depression. I know that looking from the outside, many could also find that hard to believe about me or to understand. I also remember how much I needed compassion and understanding in my darkest moments.

So often, women can be so judgmental of each other, even when we’ve walked in similar shoes and know just how and where they pinch. I am ashamed that my first response towards Chrissy wasn’t compassion, but cynicism. Jesus be a karma stopper.

Photo Credit: www.glamour.com

Photo Credit: www.glamour.com

I read Chrissy’s essay for Glamour magazine about post-partum depression, and as can be expected from Chrissy: it was honest, self-aware, funny, and for me—relatable. It reminded me of a few things:

  1. The measure of a life transcends social media posts—Happy Facebook updates, Instagrams posts, Snaps and Tweets do not a happy person make.
  2. Women contain multitudes—there are levels and layers to this womanhood thing.
  3. Depression can happen to anyone, no matter how successful, beautiful, loved, popular, intelligent, religious or rich they are. Or like the title of a Mexican soap opera that was popular in Nigeria when I was growing up: The Rich Also Cry.
  4. It takes a lot of courage to be open about something like depression, even for someone as famously confident and candid as Chrissy. And when a person boldly chooses vulnerability, we owe them empathy—or at a minimum, compassion—whether up close or from a distance.

 You can read Chrissy’s essay here. 

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